I’ve heard and I’m sure a lot of other people also have heard of the phrase, “Move on!”. And I for one when I heard this from ‘friends’ I felt annoyed or pain when I feel really hurt by the situation. There are times of course when we need to hear this for situations that you’d think back and say it was a childish thought, argument, grudge or something similar for that matter. I admit I have used this before, not realising the situation for my friend and made her feel worse in hindsight but I’ve also used this when called for.
Hearing this from a friend can be disheartening especially when thrown out casually, it does not: 1. feel good or 2. make us want to leap out with joy. However, I truly believe that to move on from a difficult situation is to keep moving forward, to not just “move on” but to give ourselves TIME to heal, UNDERSTAND our situation, look for LESSONS to be learned and to FORGIVE ourselves as we are forgiven. What I mean by forgive ourselves it to stop punishing ourselves for what we have done, we cannot do anything about the past but we can do something about the future; to look forward and slowly plan a redemptive attack for ourselves and for the people around us who love and care about us. The plan does not to be for the long term but to set something for ourselves to look and work forward to.